All aspects of the family the healthy growth of children and the influence of personality is very important. Parents should cultivate a sound personality as a family education center, to enhance the children's attention and the cultivation of good morals, family education, quit to get rid of adverse effects in the behavior of children to effectively construct a sound personality.
The following list of family education on the "Ten Commandments" in order to ensure their children can grow up healthy psychological environment, must-read for parents!
1. Do not look down on children
"You are so so Bena!" Or "You are wooden people?" Whenever these kids, then blurted out when you look down, it will damage the child's self-esteem, undermine the child's self-concept.
2. Do not threaten children
Way of using intimidation to discipline their children, will be weakened his self-concept.
If the parents said: "The next time you are so beautiful you will!" Or "You call my brother, my mother would severely hit you."
When the child heard these words, they will fear and sadness, which produces a fear of their parents.
3. Do not bribe children
Some parents promised their children, if reading achievement is good, give to buy anything, this will stimulate the driving force, this is not a good idea. This act of bribery will lead children outside the power shift from the inside. He is not good for learning self-concept built to learn, but for material reward. This is not conducive to the child establish good study purpose.
4. Do not force the child promised "not the next"
The child made a mistake, my mother was in a rage and said: "Well, now you have to promise me that you no longer afraid of the." Before long, doing it again, my mother thinks himself deceived, furious and scolded and said: "Do you promise to your mother and how they behaved now?"
Mom should know that promise is meaningless to a child's. Promises and threats are a loser, a child does not play an active role. If hit the sensitive child, forced him to promise so they will feel sorry for his mistakes again. Even if the child is not sensitive, but also make the child duplicity.
5. Do not over-protective supervision of children
Protection and supervision over the child will hurt the child's self-concept, reduced fostering children's autonomy. Because when parents monitor their children's behavior too much, in fact, is to tell children: "You can not take care of yourself."
Most parents care for their children's ability is not very confident. We should be "as long as the children themselves can do, not acting on their behalf" as a motto. So as to gradually develop the ability of children to fend for themselves.
6. Do the children nagging
Too much will make kids feel nagging parents think he does not understand the ability of things, over time, the children will have unpleasant feeling disgust. In fact, logically explain things to children, would enhance children's self-confidence and self-esteem.
7. Do not force children to blindly obey other people immediately
If you insist on the child he is doing things aside, listen to you to do anything else, his reaction will be very happy. Parents should warn children to him to do anything for a while, for example: "small army, about ten minutes, you should come eat!" Meanwhile, they also allow children to obey the order to complain about a little freedom before the , say: "Oh, Mom, I have to now come in?"
Require that children who blindly obey immediately, for bringing out the independent and self-regulation people, that the main method is invalid.
8. Do not pamper their children too
Children do not condone child benefit itself. Because children grow up sooner or later into the - on - one, to take to the society, some things will work at home, to the outside is hard to say.
Therefore, the connivance of children deprived of their only child's potential development opportunities, prevented him become competent, independent, self-regulation people.
9. Do not discipline their children with inconsistent rules
Some parents set up with their own joy, anger, arbitrary rules, and sometimes fined for the same act, sometimes charged with this matter. This makes children feel confused.
Children need you use a consistent, credible and reliable rules to teach you a consistent, credible and reliable rules to educate him.
10. Do not set the rules is not suitable for children ages
If you want a two year old child behave the same as five years old child, only that he consciously incompetent.
Because you expect to him is his age impossible to achieve the level of behavior, which his self-concept has a very bad effect.
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